BDSM Tips and Tricks to Spice Up Your Sex Life

While there is no ideal frequency and style of sex, isn’t it wonderful to have a healthy sex life, especially for couples? But if you and your partner are having a dry spell in the relationship, here are some tips and tricks to reignite that passion.

Some kinks including BDSM have erotically proven to spice up the sex life. Discipline, role-playing, and use of props to enhance the pleasure is a turn-on for most. Are you ready to explore the world of dominance and submission? We know you are!

• Spanking

Spanking is an exciting thing to do in bed when you want to try power play. Aside from a little pain, it also offers sexual excitement you don’t normally get over traditional play in bed. Sexual spanking is an act we do in bed as a context of role-playing. Do this with your partner if one of you enjoys spanking, while the other enjoys being spanked. Take turns and see which one likes better so you can ramp it up as you go. Start using with a flogger, and explore its fringes across your partner’s body to set the mood. Control the hitting if you’re a beginner until your partner can tolerate different intensities and texture. Start the spanking on the butt, since it has more cushion, and won’t feel as much pain as other parts of the body. Work your spanking all around the genitals for another experience and sensation.

• Cuffing

Most women like to be tied up in bed. Giving up control is one thing, and also trusting your partner is another thing. When you’re tied up, it heightens the intimacy of the act. Giving you less access to your body or even move at a certain time is definitely a power play that can turn you on.

Start with a handcuff that is soft to touch and easy to remove. If you’re already an experienced bondage fan, you can level this up with realistic handcuffs. It is always best practice to slip in a finger or two between the cuff and the skin so you can make sure you’re not messing with the body’s circulation.

• Using Clamps

Clamps are popular BDSM toys because they can be adjusted and removed quickly. If you and your partner want to try your take on the pain and sensation play, this is the right fit for you! Start exploring your pain threshold with a clamp, then slowly adjust it until you’re comfortable. Pain and pleasure when putting it on is the common misconception about the usage of clamps. Removing clamps actually give the most sensation to the body due to the blood and pressure gushing back. One effective trick, especially for beginners, is to distract your partner when the clamp is being removed. Sucking their nipples or touching their clit while removing the clamps gives a combined sensation for your partner.

BDSM play is not complete if you don’t have a trick and tool on your sleeve. Different materials create different sensations worth exploring. Some couples worked with their preferred strategies or a combination of the above. The tips and tricks to spice up your nights are here. Choose one or two, have fun, and be in for a great time!